Life is a delicate dance.
As the famous line in the song states, "some of them want to abuse you, some of them want to be abused".
We're in this life to learn from each other, and to learn, in significant respects, how to find balance.
If we are entrusted to positions of authority we may need to correct others, and hold them accountable, but this must be learned to be done with a pure heart as an appropriate role for good, order and learning and not for undue or excessive personal gain.
We must speak truth to power but allow others to speak their truth. Your greatest voice is in the actions of your life.
As the saying states "I can't hear what you are saying because I am overwhelmed by who you are".
And
"Nobody cares about how much you know until they know how much you care"
And
"When the student is ready the teacher will arrive"
Life is beautiful but hard
Happiness is a decision, and a gift. It is a gift that we give ourselves consciously. Because we are entitled to be happy. It is our natural condition until we start to tell ourselves things to be unhappy (I'm not successful, I'm not rich, I was taken advantage of...)
On the one end of the spectrum we have accountability and on the other we have courage. G-d made all individuals equal in value, but he allows us to play different roles. The key is to be true to our rules, to play them effectively, fully and well, but within the context of an awareness of the equality of each of our humanness (and, if you'll accept, also our Divinity) that serves as the foundation from which to play these roles properly and effectively.
If you do not see the Divinity of the other then you have not played your role to the maximum of what it can be played.
Conflicts are battles of ideas
It is famously said whenever two people come into a room and have dialogue, that the one who has greater conviction will have a more sizable impact on the one who has lesser conviction. The experiences of life, or circumstances if you will, are repeated moments of learning, of awareness, of our convictions in this battle of ideas. Ideas can hurt. They can even kill. But they also can heal.
Of course, as you also know, "there is nothing more powerful than an idea whose time has come".
Accountability is heads and forgiveness is tails
We get into trouble when we seek to separate the two. That is why, as the saying states, "forgiveness is the gift that you give yourself" (and is the gift that keeps on giving). But also, because as is also famously said "truth is beauty and beauty is truth" the things in life that are holding us back in our development need to be stripped away from us, sometimes painfully. This is all, in essence, that accountability really is.
Character is Destiny
One saying that I have come up with is that "talent will take one to the top but only character will keep one there"
Or, as they say, "be careful in regard to how you treat people on the way up, as these are the very same people that you will encounter on the way down".
Consider the Power of Love (and self-love/self-acceptance)
As the Bible reminds us:
"Love is patient;
love is kind.
Love is not jealous
or boastful;
is not arrogant or rude.
Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable - or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrong
but rejoices in the right.
Love bears all things,
believes all things hopes all things, endures all things
Love never dies"
I will follow you only when you inspire me
Tanks may detour but never derail dreams.
The balance between sentimentality and coarseness
Some people want to stamp out all emotionality in the world. Others are consumed in it.
We are powerful beings. All of us.
We must, hopefully, learn to own our great power without abusing others.
What a world that would be.
As the famous line in the song states, "some of them want to abuse you, some of them want to be abused".
We're in this life to learn from each other, and to learn, in significant respects, how to find balance.
If we are entrusted to positions of authority we may need to correct others, and hold them accountable, but this must be learned to be done with a pure heart as an appropriate role for good, order and learning and not for undue or excessive personal gain.
We must speak truth to power but allow others to speak their truth. Your greatest voice is in the actions of your life.
As the saying states "I can't hear what you are saying because I am overwhelmed by who you are".
And
"Nobody cares about how much you know until they know how much you care"
And
"When the student is ready the teacher will arrive"
Life is beautiful but hard
Happiness is a decision, and a gift. It is a gift that we give ourselves consciously. Because we are entitled to be happy. It is our natural condition until we start to tell ourselves things to be unhappy (I'm not successful, I'm not rich, I was taken advantage of...)
On the one end of the spectrum we have accountability and on the other we have courage. G-d made all individuals equal in value, but he allows us to play different roles. The key is to be true to our rules, to play them effectively, fully and well, but within the context of an awareness of the equality of each of our humanness (and, if you'll accept, also our Divinity) that serves as the foundation from which to play these roles properly and effectively.
If you do not see the Divinity of the other then you have not played your role to the maximum of what it can be played.
Conflicts are battles of ideas
It is famously said whenever two people come into a room and have dialogue, that the one who has greater conviction will have a more sizable impact on the one who has lesser conviction. The experiences of life, or circumstances if you will, are repeated moments of learning, of awareness, of our convictions in this battle of ideas. Ideas can hurt. They can even kill. But they also can heal.
Of course, as you also know, "there is nothing more powerful than an idea whose time has come".
Accountability is heads and forgiveness is tails
We get into trouble when we seek to separate the two. That is why, as the saying states, "forgiveness is the gift that you give yourself" (and is the gift that keeps on giving). But also, because as is also famously said "truth is beauty and beauty is truth" the things in life that are holding us back in our development need to be stripped away from us, sometimes painfully. This is all, in essence, that accountability really is.
Character is Destiny
One saying that I have come up with is that "talent will take one to the top but only character will keep one there"
Or, as they say, "be careful in regard to how you treat people on the way up, as these are the very same people that you will encounter on the way down".
Consider the Power of Love (and self-love/self-acceptance)
As the Bible reminds us:
"Love is patient;
love is kind.
Love is not jealous
or boastful;
is not arrogant or rude.
Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable - or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrong
but rejoices in the right.
Love bears all things,
believes all things hopes all things, endures all things
Love never dies"
I will follow you only when you inspire me
Tanks may detour but never derail dreams.
The balance between sentimentality and coarseness
Some people want to stamp out all emotionality in the world. Others are consumed in it.
We are powerful beings. All of us.
We must, hopefully, learn to own our great power without abusing others.
What a world that would be.
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